My Place(s) Of Solitude

Bloganuary Day 27.

Dear World,

Some of you may or may not know that the beach and a river are my places of refuge. They give me an everlasting peace.


Check out these beach and river related blog posts that bring me peace as my places of refuge.

The beach was my 2021 refuge

Ideally: A Good Date

Go to the beach, some river or a waterfall


Despite that, I’m not always able to be at the beach or find a nice river to wash away my stress and rejuvenate my soul. Its funny, too. I recently tweeted that I wished I had a chill spot I could run away to whenever the urge to run away comes because that urge has been happening more often these days.

So, what do I do when I need to get away and cannot get to a beach to unwind by laying in the water? Well, I sleep.

Yes, you read that correctly. I take a nap. If a nap isn’t feasible in the moment, I clean, get lost in a good movie or TV series or I listen to a solid musical playlist that must include the stylings of Queen.

My moments of solitude are those that require very little difficult brain work. I don’t want to think. I just want to be. I just want to sit in enough silence with my thoughts and the view of the horizon, flora and fauna or the blue light from whatever technological device I have access to at the time.

I find that our world doesn’t allow for such liberties. We’re expected to be on the go and doing something productive or else you’re deemed as being wasteful and lacking drive and ambition. However, I’m not wired that way.

I have to take multiple breaks throughout the day. I have to make time to stare in space and I have to be able to do that without feeling rushed. The world pressures us to be productive all day every day but it never encourages us to take it slow. We take it slow when we decide to do that.

It’s such a sad state of affairs.

Though I’m not s authority figure on the best ways to seek your solitude and find refuge, I know what works for me. If I need a fat nap, I’m finding a way to get it. I will also take my self-mandated breaks and I will break the chains of this constant productivity that we’ve been shackled to. I abhor it. Its so unhealthy to me.

Self Preservation

I’ll end with this: When you get sick or drop down and pass away, the people in your life will eventually move on (some more than others) and the list of to-do’s will either sit and gather dust or be passed on to someone else. Take your breaks and identify your spaces of solitude. Use your moments of solitude to get your mind right for you. Sometimes all you need to do that is take a nap or absent-mindedness watch something on a screen. For crying out loud, do not answer your phone in these moments. Resist the urge to be reachable 24/7.

Don’t get me wrong you know. Get your work done but don’t let it consume you. Life is so much more than the job(s) that you stress over and the people you don’t particularly like but have to work with.

Signed with love,

The Suburban Girl JA

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