My Place(s) Of Solitude

When you get sick or drop down and pass away, the people in your life will eventually move on (some more than others) and the list of to-do’s will either sit and gather dust or be passed on to someone else. Take your breaks and identify your spaces of solitude. Use your moments of solitude to get your mind right for you. Sometimes all you need to do that is take a nap or absent-mindedness watch something on a screen. For crying out loud, do not answer your phone in these moments. Resist the urge to be reachable 24/7.

It’s the silly things

Though my laughter isn’t always loud, it gets the message across. You know how facial expressions and body language depicts a message? Well, my laughter and its variations have their own language and its easily understood. I say this because the laughter, facial expressions and body language work together in unison. Its a sight to behold, actually.

Advice to my teenage self

Speaking of those who tease and pick at you: people like them show up at every stage of your life. Yep, even as an adult, you’ll come face to face with them. But guess what, you’ll be secure enough to know how to navigate them and their messy ways. Truth be told, somewhere along their journey, they were hurt and they project their hurt onto you. Love them, give them grace…but don’t allow them close to your heart.

Douse gaslighters with fire extinguishers

All gaslighters need is a little spark and if you don’t stand your ground, you’ll end up adding fuel to an unnecessary fire. You may even get tricked into giving them a proverbial lighter or some matches to make the fire worse. Stand your ground.