If you commit to something, follow through!

Blogmas 2021 | 12 Days of Christmas | Day 10

Dear World,

As much as no one owes you anything in this life, try at all times to be impeccable with your word.

In the book, The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, he mentions the four agreements that people ought to make as part of their every day life. These agreements tell us to always do our best, don’t make assumptions, don’t take anything personally, and the first one is to be impeccable with your word.

Do you know what that means? Let me tell you. Once you commit yourself to showing up for someone, for example, make sure that you show up. When you say you’re gonna get something done, get it done! As much as most people will interpret this agreement as being actionable when doing for others, please know that this also refers to promises you make to yourself.

So, if you say you’re gonna SMARTly work towards changing your diet (not just the food you consume) to improve your health, you better make sure that you do it. After all, your health is your wealth, right?

Another important point to note is that your word is your bond. So, if your break your word/commitment because of avoidable hindrances, then it may very well lead to you being unreliable. If you consistently break your word, the bond you have with others and yourself will straddle a chalk line – that once erased may probably negatively impact your relationships going forward.

Again, I say this is not just about the relationship you have with others. This is also about you.

A quick Google search reveals that the word, impeccable means to be in accordance with the highest standards. So, like… when say you’ll do something- say something- work on something, your execution of said thing should be of the highest standard.

Following through on your commitments and promises adds character to your reputation. It tells the world that you get shit done. It tells the world that you are reliable and dependable. It means that your business dealings will have a greater chance of flourishing. It means that you’re serious about keeping your word. It means that you will hold yourself and other persons accountable.

So, as you go through life, try out the first agreement and see how your life will change. I have tried it and let me tell you, accountability is in check, getting shit done is in check and growing relationship get in check. It’s not easy though. This is especially true if you’re not used to keeping your word.

As we also a knowledge that to err is human, let it be that when the ball is dropped, your counterparts will have more compassion and know that the situation is unlike you and your regular execution.

So, in as much as you owe no one anything and no one owes you anything – DO NOT use that as an excuse to be an asshole in life. It’s contradictory, I know. Read through the points again and you’ll see even a little of what I’m tryna say.

You should apply this to your life. Do it now. No need to wait until 2022 starts. Make it a priority for self development NOW. Don’t do it or say you’ll do it just because “changing your life” is forever trending. Say you’re gonna do it and actually do it because it’s the right thing to do for you.

If I go any further, I’m gonna start to ramble. So, be blessed.

*These thoughts and experiences are my own and they’re not necessarily supported by any real empirical evidence. Great, glad to have gotten that out the way.

Signed with love,

The Suburban Girl JA


6 Comments Add yours

  1. Ooh I totally agree! While it’s true that no one owes us anything, they do in fact need to own up to their word. I strive to be honourable to my word, as well. And best not to promise anything unless you’re willing to follow through. Great post!

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    1. This is exactly the point I wanted to get across. Thank you so much for chiming in as well, Sara!! Much appreciated.

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      1. ❤🙈 You’re welcome.

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  2. Simeca Alexander says:

    All I read was “don’t commit just to be nice”. Seriously… we need to learn to say no more often. For the sake of our sanity and our health. Saying no is better than saying yes then not following through. However if you do say yes…. this blog post hit the nail on the head.

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    1. Yes! Exactly. I had the hammer and saw the nail so I hammered away! Thanks for chiming in on this post, Simeca. Much appreciated.

      Do share the lessons learned with others.

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