Lessons to learn and relearn

Bloganuary Day 15,

If you learn nothing else from this Jamaican Suburban Girl, learn this: No one owes you anything in this life.

I wrote about this in my Blogmas 2021 series as a gem of hard truths and huge pills to swallow with your daily vitamins. It is true. So, instead of re-writing another lesson, the Jamaican Suburban Girl will repurpose a previous blog entry. Here goes..


Fun fact: No one owes you anything in life. Not your family, not your friends, not your colleagues, not strangers. If nothing else, you owe it to yourself to show up for yourself. That’s it.

At the beginning and the end of the day, people will do what they so choose to do if it pleases them or whomever they want to please.

So, for the love of all things good and great for your peace of mind, expect nothing in return in any situation.

Though it would be nice for your people (family, friends, colleagues etc) to support you along any journey or to reach out first and more often or even to mention your name in rooms of opportunity, they don’t owe it to you to do any of that.

For some of us, it’s a huge pill to swallow but, you have to be okay with people doing for them what they think is best in that moment. It’s difficult to accept but you have to.

As humans, we are innately selfish. Some of us are more selfish than others and some of us are more selfless than others.

Look within as well. You may think you’re the one going above and beyond when in truth you’re only doing the bare minimum.

If you feel wronged by the folks you expected more from – consider as well that they may be going through hell while trying to be present. If they don’t show up for you, it probably has nothing to do with what you think.

At the end of the day, nothing is really owed to you and you don’t really owe anything to anyone.


However, when you make commitments, follow through with them! You owe that much to yourself! Ensure to build and maintain the right kind of image. Be the person who says what their gonna do and actually do it. So, though you don’t owe anyone anything and they don’t owe you, for the love of life lessons, don’t be an asshole.

Take from this what you will.

Signed with love,

The Suburban Girl JA

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