If you’re scared, go in same way. Just do it gingerly. Sometimes the “go hard and done” mentality will get you nowhere but hurt. Approaching uncertain situations with calculated steps (and in some cases, missteps) can prevent you from being pinched in the long run.
A Friendship Breakup Isn’t a Bad Thing
From the friends you’ve had since you were a child to the friendships built in adulthood – the hard truth is that you may not always be friends. Some friendships fizzle, others have an abrupt end, while some last a lifetime. Wherever the pendulum swings, you have to be okay with it and move on.
Interview With A Vampire
If you think about it, that’s how most of us are. We like to have control over the things we want to control and we all have parts of ourselves and our world that triggers the insecure character traits. Nothing is wrong with that.
Walking through rivers prepares you for rough life moments
uncomfortable situations will definitely come your way. Some of the times, these situations will come because of lack of preparation and others will happen just because that’s how life is. The best way to make it through and cross over is ultimately with a positive attitude.
Where you’re weak, others are strong | Where you’re strong, others are weak
We all have our fallen moments-weak moments- can’t do much for ourselves moments. However, in those moments, there will be at least one person who can help to carry you along in the best way they can. Importantly, the roles will reverse at some point. That’s just the way life works. When that happens and the opportunity to pay it forward shows up, pay it forward.
Love Letter #83| I Peed Myself on a Hike
We should totally listen to kids when they say they have to go (pee) and stop the foolishness about making them hold it. Holding it is torture.
Love Letter #81 | Put them Under Curfew
How you may or may not adhere to the rules of an 8:00 pm to 5:00 am (the following day) nation-wide curfew, is an indication of how you’d operate for the proverbial curfews in your life or in the lives of those whose lives you impact.
Love Letter #79 | She Assaulted my hair
Symbolic of life, hair bolts from our head[s]. Like the earth, it can be harvested, but it will rise again. We can change its colour and texture when the mood strikes us, but in time it will return to its original form, just as Nature will in time turn our precisely laid-out cities into a weed-way.
– Diane Ackerman, A Natural History of the Senses
Work from Home Week 3 | The Light Went Out
Sometimes we lose ‘power’ in our lives as an indication that we need to pause or slow down.
Work from Home Week 1 | No Peeing in the Office Bathroom?
In some weird way, holding your pee is like holding toxic energy inside. It’s like hating on others without purposely seeking some kind of resolve. It’s like getting upset and staying upset and not unpacking and expressing your feelings.
Love Letter #77 | The Confidently Insecure Black Girl
We all wear a mask to the party. Less often than naught do we actually remove the mask or even the entire outfit and show our bare, vulnerable self. So never assume that the person who presents to you reveals their everything at all times.
Love Letter #76 | The Garbage Truck Broke Down Outside my House
Garbage trucks smell beacuse of the fusion of waste that goes in them. They’re not cleaned as often as they should be and if they are cleaned frequently, it’s not a proper clean.
Never. And, I mean never allow yourself or the vessel you use to dispose of your figurative garbage to stay filthy.
Love Letter #75| I Almost Pooped My Pants
Life comes at you fast. You have to be flexible enough to find solutions to emerging problems. Just like clenched cheeks and squeezed big toes, you must be able to contract and relax accordingly. Relaxing in grave situations might not be the wisest decision and contracting at the right time can offer the ultimate relief. Strike that balance.
Love Letter #74 | Germs on a Plane
Always walk with your antibacterial wipes. If you forget them, source soap and water and paper towel and a bin ASAP!
Love Letter #73 | Germs!
I often feel like I’m at war. Who will win? Me or the germs? I vote me. 1. Prayer works and all…but – Wash your damn hands! #Soap #Water #Friction
2. Stop touching your damn face!
3. For the love of God! Cover your nose and mouth when you cough and sneeze. Don’t do it in bare hands!
Love Letter #72 | Assaulted
My sense of security was wiped. The notion that we were relatively safe was a false reality and that incident gave us that rude awakening. I had no peace after. I barely slept and panic attacks were served with breakfast, lunch and dinner.
Love Letter #69 | Hit the Snooze Button
The same way you set time for particular things in your calendar – same way you should set time for certain people. Do not give them complete access to you. Do not give them all of your time.
Love Letter #68 |Blackness
Our blackness goes way beyond our ancestors being enslaved. It goes way beyond the enslaved mentality. It goes way beyond our complexion. It is about honouring the past of hurt but it is also about embracing the talent, the artistry, the brilliance and the overall beauty of people who are black.
We are Queens and we are Kings and we are beautiful.
We must teach our children about more than just a laundry list of iconic black people. We owe it to them.
Love Letter #62 | I Almost Missed the Bus
Never become lazy because you know that other options are there. Work towards the first option first and then … if that doesn’t work, you consider the others.
Love Letter #61 | I Jumped Again
Believing in yourself is necessary and important. That belief is part of the reason you will jump. If you doubt your every being, you won’t ever move.