I used to seek inspiration from other people and then I stopped

Bloganuary Day 6.

Hello World.

I used to have a list of people who inspired me. However, little by little, I noticed characteristics that I didn’t like. Little by little, I would’ve gotten into disagreements with them and based on how they handled the situations, my mindset towards them changed.

I also find that the “who inspires you and why” questions tend to lead to a “who do you idolise and why?” type of question. Again, no one is perfect, and to have someone so high up makes them seem almost untouchable and free from accountability or reproach. That’s my view, though.

This doesn’t mean that I despise them, it just reminded me that inspirational folks aren’t perfect. In fact, they are human just like I am. As such, they are flawed in more ways than one.

Based on that realisation, I reminded myself not to put people on a pedestal. Instead, admire specific traits about each and try to emulate those awesome traits for myself.

So, though aspects of people’s lives inspire me, not many are worthy of me saying they’re an overall inspiration.

That being said, there are many folks who have character traits that I admire or whose current life’s story has inspirational aspects that can teach others about the world, how to love and ideal ways of how to live.

Perhaps what we should do as onlookers is to learn to separate our expectations from the reality of who people are. That way, it’s easier to see them as inspirational – that way, it’d easier to not place them so high up that if they fall, it’s not a death-like experience. However, how many of us have the clarity to do that?

Yeah, that’s as much as you can get out of me where that is concerned.

Signed with love,

The Suburban Girl JA

6 comments

  1. A thoughtful answer!

    I was looking at Will Smith’s memoir on Amazon, and I saw one of the comments was something to the effect of ~ I’ve always admired Will, but this memoir pulls back the curtain so you see his flaws and all, and I’m not sure if that’s what I wanted to know!

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