Teaching myself restrain. Sometimes it’s better to not say anything.

Dear World,

You play karma with me constantly. I admit that I may not like the game but I am grateful for it none-the-less.

I am a Suburban with little tolerance for just about anything and anyone that seems nonsensical. As a result of this my opinions and views  are usually expressed with forceful clarity, precision and taking matters in my own hands. You’ve taught me that my expressions tend to be harsh and maybe even cruel.

I’ve been harsh to a few persons in recent times and times long ago. Honestly, I tend to think these persons had it coming. The nonsense ranged from rude and lewd behaviour to expressions of nonstop rubbish and making situations seem more difficult than they really are. I’ve held nothing back with such folks.  I’ve had no regrets either.

You facilitate a stage set for me to feel the consequences of my harshness.

The game comes when I least expect it and some of your natives (not knowing the kind of person I am) get very harsh and cruel with me for things that, at the end of the day, will not have an impact on and will not matter to anyone involved. Even if it does matter, World, there are better way to handle them. Deep down inside I chuckle and say touché, World, touché. I then wonder (out of all the times that I got serious and rigid with folks who make no sense to me ) if they really deserved that level of harshness. Now don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that because my feelings were hurt I should try to make peace with the universe so that my next experience being on the receiving end wont be so harsh. I’m not saying that. What I am trying to tell you, World, is that I have begun to see that even though folks might deserve some level of harsh reaction; the giver should take a deeper look at the situation before guns start firing. 

Time and energy gets saved and peace of mind is maintained.

Sometimes being quiet is the key to solving an issue.

Lessons learned? Hell yes! I’m learning how to restrain myself. You know, just shut up and breathe. “In through the nose and out through the mouth” – Wise words my friend, Simeca used to say when we jogged together a while back. I will start to exercise (get it? lol) ignoring nonsense some of the times and focus on breathing techniques which not only fills my lungs with air but will aid in my being more calm and better able to deal with foolishness.

Sometimes not speaking or not doing anything is all I need to do. If I let the chips fall where they may, the universe will aid in finding a resolution to the issues that may arise. Just forget about that potential argument and move on with life because a happier and more calm me is around the corner. Selah!

You have taught me that, World. Thank you.

Signed with love,

Candice K.