Bonding over unchecked and unaddressed trauma is not cute. Don’t get me wrong. Exchanging memes and being in new-age dialogue about the weight of our worries and laughing our asses off at the relatability is great. There was once a time where we suffered alone and in silence.
Category: Self Care
It’s the silly things
Though my laughter isn’t always loud, it gets the message across. You know how facial expressions and body language depicts a message? Well, my laughter and its variations have their own language and its easily understood. I say this because the laughter, facial expressions and body language work together in unison. Its a sight to behold, actually.
The beach was my 2021 refuge
I find that poetry is in motion whenever I go to the beach. I see my struggles represented in the manner nature shows herself to me. The high tides and low tides represent moments of turmoil and moments of serenity. The waves and the still waters represent the roller coaster-topsy turvy moments of my life. The view on the horizon represents the hope of a brighter tomorrow.
Douse gaslighters with fire extinguishers
All gaslighters need is a little spark and if you don’t stand your ground, you’ll end up adding fuel to an unnecessary fire. You may even get tricked into giving them a proverbial lighter or some matches to make the fire worse. Stand your ground.
Boost Yourself The Same Way You Boost Your Friends
Though it’s nice to know that there are people in your corner and having those people boost you just as much as you root for them, you cheering for you is also nice. You cheering for your wins and moments of greatness or moments when you need a push is also amazing.
Love Letter #87 | Audit And Cleanse
As it relates to the audit of the relationship you have with yourself: you’re gonna have to wash away some of your dirty habits. Do a review of who are, what you do as well as the things and situations you engage in.
Love Letter #81 | Put them Under Curfew
How you may or may not adhere to the rules of an 8:00 pm to 5:00 am (the following day) nation-wide curfew, is an indication of how you’d operate for the proverbial curfews in your life or in the lives of those whose lives you impact.
Love Letter #79 | She Assaulted my hair
Symbolic of life, hair bolts from our head[s]. Like the earth, it can be harvested, but it will rise again. We can change its colour and texture when the mood strikes us, but in time it will return to its original form, just as Nature will in time turn our precisely laid-out cities into a weed-way.
– Diane Ackerman, A Natural History of the Senses
Work from Home Week #… I forgot | I Started doses of Vitamin ‘C’
Liken your crayons and colouring books to the act of adding light or colour back into your life. The paper is the canvas and it can represent you. Each colour stroke on paper is the ray of light that you need or want in life.
Work from Home Week 3 | The Light Went Out
Sometimes we lose ‘power’ in our lives as an indication that we need to pause or slow down.
Work from Home Week 1 | No Peeing in the Office Bathroom?
In some weird way, holding your pee is like holding toxic energy inside. It’s like hating on others without purposely seeking some kind of resolve. It’s like getting upset and staying upset and not unpacking and expressing your feelings.
Love Letter #74 | Germs on a Plane
Always walk with your antibacterial wipes. If you forget them, source soap and water and paper towel and a bin ASAP!
Love Letter #73 | Germs!
I often feel like I’m at war. Who will win? Me or the germs? I vote me. 1. Prayer works and all…but – Wash your damn hands! #Soap #Water #Friction
2. Stop touching your damn face!
3. For the love of God! Cover your nose and mouth when you cough and sneeze. Don’t do it in bare hands!
Love Letter #70 | Has Cupid Forsaken Me?
My environment doesn’t suggest that it’s okay to be shot by Cupid. As far as I know, if I allow the cherub to shoot me, I run a high risk of being slapped by his fisted hand, shot by his gun, slashed by his machete or even stabbed by his knife.
Love Letter #69 | Hit the Snooze Button
The same way you set time for particular things in your calendar – same way you should set time for certain people. Do not give them complete access to you. Do not give them all of your time.
Suburban Telegram #1 | Pain
Pain, in its many forms, is inevitable.
What we do with the experience of pain will determine how we move forward.